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Thursday, April 18, 2013

A Woman's Blessing



One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the President’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner.

Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle, “Why was he so interested in talking to you?" She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?" Michelle responded, “No, if I had married him, he would now be the President.”

Believe it or not, sometimes it's a woman that makes a man who he is. So for the single men that are still searching for a wife, may God help you to find that help mate that will turn you from " a nobody" into "a somebody". For that single lady that is reading this, may you be that blessing no man can do without.

* Source: internet

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

'Jingga', The Unadorned Freshmaker



Unbelievable! I've never been so stunned before by a character in a novel, but 'Jingga' in "Infinitely Yours" by Orizuka could really shake my mind up. I should tell ya, that I've already fallen in love with this character even at the page of 60 only—still far less than halfway to the end.

'Jingga', who is a Korean freak, knocks me by her light-hearted nature, sometimes innocent yet caring, and almost insensitive of pain. She can always heat up every cold moment of the storyline. It makes me craving for every new page in order to dig up her personal details, a bit more and more.

So fellas, where else in this world we can find a woman as rollicking as 'Jingga'? Almost impossible, huh? But at least, this character has proved the power of fiction, which allow us to see some greatness that out of our expectation for them to be appear in real life. Only fiction could make an assist to perfection, and Orizuka already did one. Great stuff!

Monday, April 15, 2013

The Right Partner



During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's also weighing on your mind to how the author would reply.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this): the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO! ♥

* Source: internet